Don't Quit..!!!!

Speaking from hard experiences....sometimes this seems SO very difficult.... 
We all have this eternal light of love for ourselves that we may tap into at any time.... 
This infinite pilot is full of wisdom, intuition and love. Our human life experiences are planned to grow this light.... 
We must pull up our boot straps and warrior on through every storm that comes our way...for the sun will shine another day...!!!!

Promise yourself

To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person you meet. To make all your friends feel that there is something in them. To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true. To think only the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best. To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own. To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future. To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile. To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others. To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble. To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words but great deeds. To live in faith that the whole world is on your side so long as you are true to the best that is in you.

Yourself...

"Nobody's going to do your life for you. You have to do it yourself, whether you're rich or poor, out of money or raking it in, the beneficiary of ridiculous fortune or terrible injustice. And you have to do it no matter what is true. No matter what is hard. No matter what unjust, sad, sucky things befall you. Self-pity is a dead-end road. You make the choice to drive down it. It's up to you to decide to stay parked there or to turn around and drive out." 

Unexperienced Blessing...!!!!!!

“Naturally, after many, many, many, years of experiencing rejection from people who were supposed to Love her, that was the very first time she had been exposed to identify a blessing. However she didn't know how to respond, because at the same time as her conscious mind generated a feeling of glorious pleasure...her subconscious reacted awkward affecting her physically, as if her body was rejecting the unfamiliar emotion she was experiencing. Sadly, she was not equipped to fully assimilate and accept a simple blessing with grace and she had to go through much more to understand what accepting a blessing entailed.”

You cannot save everyone...!!!!!!

Should you help someone who is reaching out and deeply-hurting? Absolutely. Do what you can to help people but have the wisdom to accept your limits. You can only do so much. You should never have a relationship based on guilt over someone's poor choices. It is so easy to find ourselves in denial about someone's behavior because we so deeply wish they could escape their pain and suffering. But what we want for others doesn't work unless they want it for themselves. People must save themselves, and you can only help a person who really wants it and is ready. You have permission to walk away from anything that doesn't feel right. Trust your instincts and listen to your inner-voice — it's trying to protect you. Never stop sharing your love with people; that's why you were put on Earth. But sometimes the way to share your love is to let someone go. Staying in an unhealthy relationship can keep a person from finding their own way and moving to the next level of their own path — and that person could even be you. Sometimes the best way to save someone is to walk-away. Real love sometimes means saying goodbye.

Your life was meant for more than being a life-long doormat for deadbeats, losers, gossipers, nay-sayers, dream-crushers, energy vampires, users, abusers, ragers and passive-aggressive backstabbers. Some of these people are rabidly-infected with obvious madness. Some have less obvious ways, such as the "helpful" enabler, who sends you off to your destruction with a helping hand and a smile. Some are "doubt-whispers," who plant the seeds of non-belief in your heart to take root, so they can then console you in your inevitable moment of defeat. There are also perpetual victims who feed on your constant attention. Call them what you want, you know exactly who I am talking about. One thing always reveals their sometimes hidden identity — after you have been around them, how do you feel; have you been depleted and drained or energized and inspired?

A person at peace can immediately recognize a consciousness in crisis, whereas those in crisis cannot fully understand themselves or others. This is the eternal challenge with ignorance — ignorance can't see itself. People often turn away from good advice because they need something another person can never give them — discovery. As much as we would like to help others avoid pain, sometimes we have to let go and allow them to receive their painful lessons. Suffering is one of life's great teachers. You cannot save people from themselves. All you can do is stand firmly in your hopes for them, with compassion.

I know you want to be a good person and be helpful to people in need, but it's impossible to give to others if you have been used-up. Being a good person has nothing to do with allowing people to destroy you. There are limits. You can best help others from a position of strength, not weakness. So, don't forget to be good to yourself first. Don't forget to take care of you! It is never cruel to want to save yourself from being swamped by fools. You cannot save everyone. Some people are going to destroy themselves no matter how much you try to help them. Their lives are full of emptiness, chaos and dysfunction, and they will bring their misery and pain into your life with full-force if you allow it. Then there are others who have the outward appearance of success and are seemingly not self-destructive in nature. These people do not destroy themselves, but instead survive through the destruction of others — these are the users. Either of these types of people will latch-on to you in a death-spiral and take you down to the depths of hell with them. This is your life and you have the right and responsibility to make good decisions for yourself.

You must firmly, absolutely and ruthlessly protect your safety and sanity. Misery loves good company, so if you are surrounded with drama, gossip and fools you may want to consider that you are presently at risk of becoming one of them. The real zombie-apocalypse is the pandemic of drama and mediocrity. Troublemakers will infect you with the malady of their madness. And especially, if your positivity immune system is low, any exposure to a person afflicted with negativity can poison your life. You have to get these people out of your life once and for all. One of the fastest ways you can profoundly change your life is to rid yourself of toxic people. When you do come in contact with one of these people run for your life. Get to safety. Meditatively and spiritually decontaminate yourself. Scrub down your brain with a wire-brush and remove their insanity from the corridors of your mind. Inoculate yourself immediately by creating a safe space and aligning yourself with healthy people. If you have to go it alone for a while until you find your healthy tribe and chosen family, that is fine. Being alone is much better than being around negative people out of loneliness or desperation.

Boundaries and risk management are very important parts of living a healthy and positive life. Even professionals like therapists, psychologists and social workers limit their exposure to their clients and draw boundaries. What makes you think you can handle unlimited exposure to toxic people and survive? You can still be a charitable person who helps and cares about people, without helping those very people destroy your life. Learn how to draw a line and learn how to enforce it. Get selfish and take care of you. Cleanliness and order is good Feng Shui which applies to people even more than to the things in your life. You must clear out what you don't want, to make room for what you do want to arrive. The way to send a clear message that you are ready for better people in your life is the kick the rascals to the curb. We strive our whole lives to love people unconditionally, but sometimes we need to get rid of people unconditionally. The intimate space of your personal life should be reserved for amazing, beautiful, radiant souls — good, wholesome and loving people. Your truest family is your chosen family, people with whom you most identify. Make a clear decision on the type of people you want in your life and if they don't make the cut, then create some distance. It doesn't matter if it is a close relative, parent or child-hood friend; no matter the history — when people are toxic, disruptive and dysfunctional with no reasonable signs of recovery, then they need to go. Sometimes, to escape a bad relationship and reclaim our lives, we have to break a piece of our heart off, like a wolf chews its leg off to escape a steel trap. Love toxic people from a distance.

Now could be the time to walk away; hell, you may even need to run. Haven't you been listening to your inner-voice? Be honest, your gut has been screaming but you have been ignoring it. How much more of your life are you going to throw-away for a lie? Accept it. Some people never change. Some people have abusive, negative, controlling tendencies in their blood; they are wired for havoc, bickering and deception. They know of no other way to interface with others except through their created chaos. Chaos is their home-court advantage where they play their mind-games so they can have power over you; it's a rigged game you can never win. They will wear you ragged and bring you to your knees emotionally and physically. In time they will destroy every wonderful thing you have in your life. You are in danger: your health, your peace of mind, your happiness and maybe even your life. There is more than one way to lose your life; quickly through violence, or fettered-away and wasted around dreadful, toxic people. You must take control of your life and make good decisions for yourself. The insanity must end, for your sake and for theirs.

Sometimes a person needs us to abandon them, but we hang-on anyway, which can be devastating for both parties. Helping others can sometimes even be a convenient distraction from addressing our own unresolved issues. When someone you know is so toxic and destructive that they are poisoning your life, you have to create some distance. They need you to walk away as much as you need it. People who are out of control desperately need to observe your healthy boundaries in-play to learn from your example. You best teach others about healthy boundaries by enforcing yours on them. There is a difference between giving-up and strategic disengagement. Know the difference. Learn how to let people go. Stop holding-on to the wrong people. Let them go on their own way; if not for you, then for them.

You can help others once you are safe, secure and successful in your own life. Practically every successful person you know of is successful, in part, because they moved the destructive and disruptive people out of their lives. Successful people carefully manage their energy and associations; they are gatekeepers. Who you allow into your life, mind and heart are among the most important decisions you will ever make. Take inventory of the people with whom you spend the most time. Who you spend your time with is who you are, or who you will soon become. Limit your exposure to unhealthy and unsupportive people. Love yourself enough to say no to people who diminish your chances for a beautiful and empowered life. Sometimes you have to get away from what you know to discover what you don't know. It is time for the abuse, control, lies and negativity to end. Align yourself with a new tribe of healthy people who are supportive of your highest good and potential. Find the people who are living the positive lifestyle you wish for yourself and who share your values, and create a new family of friends that you can call, "home." Your new positive and supportive tribe will edify you, strengthen you and empower you to serve others in ways you would have never before imagined. Taking care of yourself is the most powerful way to begin to take care of others. It is not too late for you. It is never too late to begin loving yourself again. It is never too late to have the life you deserve. Healing for everyone begins with self-love — starting right now.

By Bryant McGill.....!!!!!!!

Myself...

It’s easy to forget who you are sometimes. Especially when the voices in your head are unkind or you feel unappreciated. Maybe you find yourself buying into the myth that everyone else has it together... that they are happier than you... that their lives are filled with more joy than yours. But everyone has days that are blah...

Everyone has moments of doubt. It’s part of the human journey. We dance with both the shadow and light. So if you’re having one of those lackluster days, let us help you remember...

You are Appreciated & Loved...

You are made of stardust and divine love. You are precious. You are needed. You are a blessing...

Have Faith...

Tears are good.... 
What flows is alive.... 
Crying is like a thundershower for the soul. 
The air feels so wonderful after the rain. 
Don't think too much. Breathe. 
Don't be harsh or demanding on yourself. 
Just experience your feelings and know that your tears are announcing change in your life. 
Change is coming; like a summer rain — to wash away your pain.
 Have faith that things are getting better.

“I lie to myself all the time. But I never believe me.”

"What is a promise called when you don’t really mean it? When you just say it to get you to the next tier? Is it a lie?

I lied to myself over and over.

Maybe you’re cringing or maybe you pity me. Maybe you don’t care at all since promises to ourselves are the worst kinds of promises because no one is holding us accountable. Or perhaps you’d pick up your own coffee cup, the one right after you’ve sworn off coffee, and nod with "I promise I will do better" before you put it back down and go off to brew another pot. The newer lies I tell myself stacked on top of the old ones all along the edges of my life in places nobody would care to look. All the years I lied to myself about not wanting to be a writer. The lies I told myself about who I was. The lies themselves innumerable and ugly. What’s most scary about these lies we tell to ourselves is their proximity to the truth.

Such a strange sense of satisfaction being so close to the truth. Holding it in your hands like a thing with weight, until you realize that lies are slippery and wet, unholdable at best, and that they have no weight. They carry nothing but themselves."

Inspiration Flows Where Your Will Goes

She disconnected completely. She felt numbed. She was sad. She descended slowly down. She fell into her own emptiness low, lower, and even lower inside. She began sinking deep and deeper. Her own tears were drowning her. She felt as if a whirlpool was dragging her into the bottom of the ocean. She was inconsolable and ready to renounce. Except, her heart didn't give up; her heart kept beating and didn't stop. In the midst of her numbness; the only thing she sensed was each pound from her core. The strikes were not empty for each beat was full of verve and she noticed that those thumps were not alone. There was oomph behind her heart’s throbs and she didn't know where her liveliness came from. The life-force was familiar and brought her relief though. Then suddenly, she recognized the force in her heart and, as she ascended to the surface at mind speed, she realized that the energy she felt was neither more nor less than Her Will to be.

Believe in yourself and have Faith that you will rise above...!!!!!!

We will all feel pain in our lives at one time or another and we will all suffer from that pain. However, do we really need to suffer to the extent that we do? There's no getting around pain in a human existence. We will have physical pain and emotional pain but the level of suffering often is something that we can change. 

I can speak only of my own experiences when I write this message. I know that I have endured pain in my life. Illness, loss of a loved one, pain from watching a loved one suffer, just to name a few. What I now know is that the level of suffering that I do at the hand of each of these experiences is something that I can let get out of control or I can keep under control. I've lived a life based on fear. Fear of what could happen, fear of letting people see me as the sensitive person I really am, fear of this, fear of that. I worry about things I can't control, I worry about things that happen to other people, the list could go on and on...

I know that I can't stop challenges from presenting themselves but I also know that I can control how far I let that suffering go. I have found that my mind goes out of control at times, lost in the "what could happen" from this scenario. I lose sleep thinking about things that I have ZERO control over and I know it. It's taken a lot of self work to get to the point where I recognize my mind taking the leap off the cliff into bedlam. I recognize it as it's happening and am able to put the brake on. 

However, knowing it is happening and putting the brake down doesn't make it STOP. It slows the process, it gives me time to look at the situation and face what is happening. You can't hide from these things because that just makes them come back again and even stronger. You have to learn to recognize the backward movement and face it. See it for what it is and then adjust your thinking so you focus on what you can control and let go of what you can't.

Some of the things that have worked for me are to look at the thoughts running around in my head. Are the worries realistic and do I have control over the outcomes. I ask myself why I am feeling as I am. What am I afraid of? What will my worrying about it do for me? Most of the time after I have this little conversation with myself I realize that my worries are unfounded, based on outcomes that are out of my control, or are not my worries at all and not mine to carry. I, like you am a work in progress and I make wonderful advancements and then I have days where I fall back. It's all part of the growing process. Even though I wish that I was just moving forward and making advancements all the time, that's unrealistic. I can be proud of the fact that I am moving forward, that I am aware when I fall backward and that I can face what is in front of me and bring it back under control. You can do it too! I have Faith in all of us that we can make our lives better and in turn affect the lives of so many others.

Believe in yourself and have Faith that you will rise above. There are lessons in every aspect of life and we all have to learn them. We can learn them through immense suffering or we can learn them with less. The choice ultimately is ours when we recognize this truth.

Just keep believing...!!!

You won’t be the same person...!!!!!!!

And once the storm is over, 
you won’t remember how you made it through, 
how you managed to survive. 

You won’t even be sure, 
whether the storm is really over. 

But one thing is certain. 
When you come out of the storm, 
you won’t be the same person who walked in. 
That’s what this storm’s all about.

Feed your self esteem..not your ego...!!!!!!!

In this relationship called society, every human being is cutting himself off from another by his position, by his ambition, by his desires for fame, power, and so on; but he has to live in this brutal relationship with others like himself, so the whole thing is glossed over and made respectable by pleasant sounding words....!!!!

In everyday life, each one is devoted to his own interests, though it may be in the name of country, in the name of peace, or God, and so this isolating process goes on....!!!

One becomes aware of this whole process in the form of intense loneliness, a feeling of complete isolation. Thought, which has been giving all importance to itself, isolating itself as the `me', the ego, has finally come to the point of realizing that it's held in the prison of it's own making...!!!!

It takes a great man to be a good listener...!!!

It is important to know how to listen, not only to me particularly, but to anybody. It is important to know how to listen because if we know how to listen truly, something extraordinary happens to us, because then without any bias, without any prejudice, we can go to the root of the matter immediately. But if we throw up a lot of arguments, concoct devices or contradictions to see who is correct and who is not correct and carry on with our own particular idiosyncrasies and ideas, then we will not discover the truth of the matter at all. We shall only be concerned with our own particular conclusions, with our own point of view. So if I may suggest, it is important that we should listen truly because if we can know how to listen, the truth will reveal itself. We do not have to explore the problem, but if we know how to listen to the song of a bird, to the voice of another, if we can listen as to music without any interpretation or translation, it definitely clarifies the mind; so similarly, if it is possible, let us listen with that intention - not to confute or to conform, but to directly find out the truth for ourselves.

Present lies between past and future..!!!!

If you watch your own mind at work, you will see that the movement to the past and to the future is a process in which the present is not..!!!

Either the past is a means of escape from the present, which may be unpleasant, or the future is a hope away from the present.

So the mind is occupied with the past or with the future and sloughs off the present. It either condemns and rejects the fact or accepts and identifies itself with the fact. Such a mind is obviously not capable of seeing any fact as a fact. 

That is our state of consciousness, which is conditioned by the past and our thought, is the conditioned response to the challenge of a fact; the more you respond according to the conditioning of belief, of the past, the more there is strengthening of the past.
That strengthening of the past is obviously the continuity of itself, which it calls the future. So that is the state of our mind, of our consciousness. a pendulum swinging backwards and forwards between the past and the future..!!!!

Take risk and Conquer your fear...

Do not let fear paralyze you, do not allow it to make you weak. You are still alive as long as you live, you are not yet dead. Yet in your mind you act as though you are crippled, you act as though your body is ill. You tell yourself you cannot do this, and you cannot do that. But that is not the case, you have only accepted fear. Fear has made you this way. It is not one's own doing, it is what comes of fear. So the answer is simple, rid yourself of the fear. Stand opposite the power that you have given fear to weaken you. Be Great, for you are strong. Cast out the doubts, conquer your thoughts!