Grief is not as heavy as guilt, but it takes more away from you...

Have you wondered what our exaggerated reactions might reveal about us? simply put, they reveal a truth about ourselves that we’re often afraid to admit... isn't..??

It’s scary being confronted with the reality of your suffering...

In that moment, you’re not only facing with all the pain you’ve suffer, but also with all of the work that now needs to be done. it’s a frightening realization, even more so when a person realizes their pain has been self-induced all along, and that its cessation has always been entirely within their control...

Most people run away from the true source of their problems when they see it staring back at them in the mirror.... 
it’s shocking to realize it’s been you all along... 
it’s a moment filled with shame that many refuse to accept, resorting instead to finger-pointing, frustration and blame...

I see this happen every day, disguised within people’s overblown comments  more importantly, i’ve also been witness to this within myself. i too, deluded myself for blaming all of my unhappiness on everyone around me, everyone but myself...

People often respond with anger and bitter criticism when their pain has finally been exposed...it repulses them to know the truth, even more so when they’ve.... they’ve realized it’s been their own doing all along..... their anger betrays them however, tricking them into thinking that no one knows best but them, but if that were true, their pain would have healed long ago. instead, it persists because they choose to resist...!!!!

When the truth behind our struggles is rolled out in front of us, our wounds become open, sensitive and raw.

In this moment, we become our most vulnerable, possibly even reverting to a childlike response filled with outbursts of rage, anger and contempt. we grieve for our loss of innocence...we didn’t realize our gross negligence, and it not only shocks us, it embarrasses us. we grieve for the part we've played in creating our pain and it’s damn hard to accept too...!!

This grief, the one where we realize we’ve been our own worst enemy, is just like any other...